Being Supportive

So when we last left off in our little story, I was a wave of emotions after finding out my wife was with child...my child.

Though I don't know for certain, she looked to be somewhere between fearful and scared and not because she never wanted to be a mommy (she did) but because she was scared of my reaction.

Being in my occupation, I meet many married couples and soon-to-be married couples. When heading into a marriage relationship, the subject of children is something that should be seriously discussed at some point in time. Having one who wants children and another who doesn't want children can cause an early rift in a marriage. As a result, we talked about having children and both agreed that we want kids...in about a year or so. We have only been married for about three months.

My wife expected me to get angry at her. She put her face in her hands and began to cry. She felt as if she disappointed me.

Some guys, whether shortly before or after marriage and even sometimes divorce, get bestowed with a wealth of women knowledge. These guys know everything there is to know about women. They have infinite insight and wisdom on all things female. They would probably give King Solomon a run for his money.

Sadly, I'm not one of those guys. I'm still new to the whole marriage thing. I just got used to the idea of sharing a bed with someone!

Though I don't know everything there is to know about a woman, I think it is safe to say that in trying to be a loving husband it is a good idea to show love and support to your wife. Perhaps that means giving a foot massage when she has a bad day, cleaning up the house, preparing her favorite meal, giving her some well-deserved rest, or forsaking a Mavericks game so she can watch a movie of her choice(just once in a while on that skipping Mavs games...lets not get carried away).

In this particular moment I think she needed a hug, a kiss, and some words of comfort and reassurance. As a married couple, we're a team. I think of it as, "We're in this together. For better or for worse." What was strangely good to realize was that she was just as uncertain as I was; however, just as much as she's my support I need to be her support as well.

Will we have to make sacrifices? Yes.

Will it be difficult? So I've read.

Will we make it? I think so.

Am I ready yet? No.
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